Monday, March 28, 2011

It's Finally Over

As most of my readers know my son, nephew and brother-in-love was hit head on by a drunk driver a little over a year and a half ago...since then we have been to court several times....finally this past week we are finished with court......all in our favor thankfully....yet the person who hit them will not be prosecuted or go to jail......this was her 3rd offense for the same thing...alcohol found in the persons system,in the car she was driving.....the same persons parents placed her in a home for the mentally unstable so she would not be prosecuted.....there is nothing we can do unless she ever gets out before the time frame to be prosecuted is up.....then she will go to jail......my bil will never work again, walk properly, or do the daily things he was able to.......my nephew now has anger issues resulting from this wreck.......my son does not sleep well or ride in a vehicle well since the accident......three lives changed by a careless driver....for my son he can now move on and eventually will recover from his issues......my nephew will do the same.......my bil's life is forever changed along with my sister.....now she must work to support her family.......the roles are reversed........please pray for them......there is no satisfaction or relief in store for them......they're lives are forever changed because someone chose to drink, and drive with no regard for themselves or others......IF YOU DECIDE TO DRINK PLEASE DO NOT DRIVE..........YOU MAY BE LUCKY AND MAKE IT HOME OK WITH NO MISHAPS.....THEN AGAIN YOU MAY HURT NOT ONLY YOURSELVES BUT OTHERS AND FOREVER CHANGE SOMEONES LIFE FOR THE WORSE........Yes I am happy that they did not die........they could have and my bil almost did twice........and still could from three of the blood clots that will take over another year to dissolve........at the same time people who drink should not drive........the laws should be tougher on those who do........they should not be allowed to hide away to keep from going to jail........yes she needs help......yes she needs to dry out and get off all drugs and alcohol.......and yes she should go to jail for what she did......our laws should protect the innocent and not the law breakers........the laws should be harsher for those who continue to drink and drive........the roads would be safer for those who do follow the law........the innocent would be safer........If you drink and drive my prayer is that you get caught before you hurt or kill yourself or someone else.......Please don't be the cause of someone else's suffering. For those of you who think I am on a soap box and need to hush......undoubtedly you have never experienced what we as a family have in the past year and a half or you're a drinker who drives when they please without regard for life...yours or others.......Drinking and driving do not mix!!! Please do not put the two together........they only cause harm and eventually you will either get caught, hurt someone (maybe someone you love) or kill/hurt someone you don't know....I am not trying to be harsh, just trying to keep what happened to us from happening to someone else.....Awful things happen to good people all the time.......some may say where was God in all of this......He was with them in the accident......they all survived.........my son said God pushed him over to the side when they flipped.......God was with my bil during all those days, weeks that he was fighting for his life....God is still with us today........WE praise God daily for the lives that He spared that day.......I even thank God that the person who hit them did not die......at least now she has another opportunity to change her life and accept Christ into her life.....I thank God that He was and is with us on a daily basis making the crooked path straight....God has been with us through it all......He has given us favor when we needed it, strength when we needed it and love throughout this ordeal....Every time I look at my son I see the faithfulness of God to us......God was and is with us at all times, good, bad, hard and easy....and I am thankful that He is Faithful to us who call Him Father......Please don't let someone you know DRINK AND DRIVE!

Wendy

5 comments:

Ruby said...

Amen and Amen!

Ann Flowers said...

Oh Wendy I am so sorry for your family! It is so true it effects everyone involved in a family. I agree that no one should ever drink and drive. I am glad you have faith in God. the bible gives a sure hope for a future without all the pain and suffering we see today. I am sending a hug to your family!

A group called Simple Plan has a song named: Untitled. It was a song and video they wrote to show the effects of drinking and driving not only for the victims but the family. This is what the group says about the video:

"Over the last few years, a lot of people we know have been involved in tragic accidents caused by drinking and driving. One of the students at our high-school crashed his car driving back from a weekend trip and killed his best friend. It was a very sad time that none of us will ever forget.

When an accident happens, there are more victims than people think, and many lives are changed forever...Parents, brothers, sisters, sons and daughters, grandparents...everybody feels the impact.

We wanted to tell a story with this video: the story about all of the innocent victims affected by drinking and driving."

Here is a link to the video, when I read your story it made me think of this video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQ7oqmikZDQ

I am sorry for all the pain you have suffered. Sending a warm hug to you too Wendy!

Ann Flowers
flowerscrazyq@gmail(dot)com

creativedawn said...

Dearest Wendy,
Unfortunately, it's never over. I pray for all involved in this accident. I've no mercy for those who consume drugs of any kind and alcohol (as well as nicotine) is a drug and should be regulated along with narcotics (JMHO) As an ex-police officer, I've seen the accident scenes, death scenes and agree with you. The girl should be jailed. I hope she remembers what she has done forever. Anyhoo, I shall keep you and your family in prayer.
hugz
Pam

Cathy K said...

Wendy, I am glad that at least this horrible chapter is over for you, although it seems there are lingering issues.

You are SO RIGHT. I have NO TOLERANCE for drivers who drink (or get high or text or even talk on the d*** phone). PAY ATTENTION or walk. I am sick of weak laws and courts that slap wrists and, in essence, give drunk drivers no reason to quit. I believe in two strikes and you’re out. First strike - pay fines, damages and go to jail, minimum. Second offense - lose the drivers license forever, pay fines and damages and go to jail for a long time.

Uh-oh, this topic really strikes a nerve. My turn to get off the soap box.

Love and hugs to you and your family!
Cathy

Wendy said...

Thank you for all your comments on this post....Wendy

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